Master Jim and slave marsha
FLAME Conference
CLASSES
Ember Room – Power Exchange Classes
Sir Luke and His victor
On the Edge of Consent
Ember Room
Saturday February 20, 2021 at 7:00am Pacific
Consensual nonconsent is like riding a rollercoaster; once the lap bar is lowered, we have committed to staying along for the ride until it’s over, even if we throw up, a screw comes loose, or the car comes completely off the track. Why would someone knowingly engage in this level of risk? In consensual nonconsent, we take the thrill of the ride, harness its innate power, and incorporate it into how we play, fuck, and live to create encounters with reduced risk and elevated accountability.
Join us as we delve into an intense, thought-provoking, and possibly challenging topic that pulls back the layers of what makes CNC fundamentally different from rape or violated consent. We will explore the deep physical and psychological satisfaction that comes from engaging in CNC.
Isabella Cross
Unclaimed Baggage
Ember Room
Saturday February 20, 2021 at 9:00am Pacific
They are the look of perfection and poise. Never missing a deadline, always on time and 20 steps ahead in every event, conversation, meeting and play party. They always look regal and on point. They are fiercely self-sufficient, even while in a power dynamic. They are the quite force next to their D-types, making it all look flawless. But behind that curtain of perceived perfection is a long airport terminal full of unclaimed baggage. Bags filled with trauma responses, trust issues and toxic habits, to name a few. In this interactive discussion from a slave's perspective, we examine how to identify some of those unclaimed bags both for the growth of the s-type and the growth of the dynamic. We will also look at how the structure of a power dynamic could potentially benefit the s-type unpack those bags.
Team Soup
Power Imbalance: What makes your heart happy and your bits tingle?
Ember Room
Saturday February 20, 2021 at 11:00am Pacific
Power imbalanced relationships… not another class on M/s or D/s dynamics…. UGH? Do you find yourself comparing your power dynamic to others in the scene and feeling like yours looks way different! There are as many styles of power imbalanced relationships as there are people in them. A relationship should meet the needs of the people in it and make their hearts happy and their needs fulfilled. This workshop aims to provide some ideas and concepts to your journey as you craft the power imbalanced relationship of your dreams.
Goddess Indigo and Dr. Bob
Scorch the Earth & Salt the Land: Communication Styles for the Incendiary
Ember Room
Saturday February 20, 2021 at 1:00pm Pacific
Living an Authority Transfer Dynamics 24/7 can involve unusual challenges on how to communicate when the discussion develops an emotional charge. Is it possible to have clear communication where all parties feel heard and recognized when authority imbalance is involved? Should one “step out of the dynamic” in order to fully express themselves? Join Goddess Indigo as we discuss multiple communication, de-escalation and repair techniques that are useful in creating a safe and effective space for resolving difficult situations."
The Rooks
Ownership as a Spiritual Path
Ember Room
Saturday February 20, 2021 at 3:00pm Pacific
Some submissives describe their journey as being “monks for love.” Some owners are worshipped. Considering all of the protocol, ritual, symbology, traditions, and ordeals that we pursue, there are many parallels to spiritual traditions. Let’s talk about ways a spiritual path can be incorporated as a model or tool to strengthen your dynamic, and ways that you both can find spiritual value and deep soul satisfaction on the path of your relationship, no religion required! We will share our personal experiences with Buddhism, energetic embodiment, Christianity of many flavors, and spiritual animism and welcome discussion from the group’s diverse belief systems. Ownership can be a vocation; for those of us who feel the pull, it can be a powerful engine for spiritual growth and meaning.
Ms DDom and CreamDream
The Master/slave “Interracial Dynamic”
Ember Room
Sunday February 21, 2021 at 7:00am Pacific
This interactive presentation focuses on race and power exchange dynamics; when partners are considered being involved in an “interracial dynamic”. Does race clash or intersect within authority-based dynamics? Do partners feel ostracized in the community in these dynamics? Is one partner “seen” more than the other partner when involved in an interracial dynamic? Are there inherent challenges by participating in PE/AT dynamics and maintaining one’s racial identity? Come share in the discussion.
Lady Umbra and Prairie Locked
Mindful Habits
Ember Room
Sunday February 21, 2021 at 9:00am Pacific
It’s all the little things that matter Looking for ways to keep your power exchange relationship fresh and exciting, even after the New Relationship Energy has dissipated? Looking for ways in this time of COVID, with less physical interaction with our BSDM communities, to keep the relationship spark alive in a self-isolation bubble? Join Lady Umbra and her slave as they share tips and tricks to develop and implement mindful habits into the day-to-day routine of your PE relationship. By focusing on the little things that are often neglected when a relationship stagnates, they will provide specific skills and strategies that you can implement right away without getting overwhelmed.
Master Jim and slave marsha
Shelf Life: Checking the Expiration Date on a M/s Relationship
Ember Room
Sunday February 21, 2021 at 11:00am Pacific
Many M/s relationships end (sometimes quietly, sometimes with an explosion) after a few years; others go on, but slowly dim to the point that a once vibrant M/s identity is faded and forgotten. Why do M/s relationships end or grow stale? What can be done to maintain their freshness? In this seminar, Master Jim and slave marsha – veterans of a 20 year M/s relationship – will address the many reasons M/s relationships may grow stale. They will examine the significant role change plays in both the demise and the continuation of an M/s relationship. Finally, they will present strategies that could help keep a relationship from reaching its expiration date.
Mister Blue and Blue Frost
Maintaining a Healthy Power Exchange Relationship
Ember Room
Sunday February 21, 2021 at 1:00pm Pacific
As with all relationships, Power Exchange (whether it be TPE or PE) require a tremendous amount of work to remain viable. During this presentation we’ll do a deep dive into understanding key markers such as the stages and cycles of a relationship, joint and personal expectations, love languages, and communication styles to help maintain new and existing PE relationships.
Blaze Room – Community Education Track
Sir Phoenix Black
Biochemistry and Neurology of Kink
Blaze Room
Saturday February 20, 2021 at 7:00am Pacific
In this moderator lead class, we will discuss the biochemistry, hormones and altered mental states behind subspace and topspace. Tips on how to manipulate it, enjoy it and survive it. This class is for the dirty, nerdy and geeky on both sides of the slash.
Underground Sea
Say Yes to Saying No: Taking a Stand for Your Boundaries
Blaze Room
Saturday February 20, 2021 at 9:00am Pacific
Discuss what can make it hard to say no and how to mitigate each difficulty. Walk away with a 4-tier escalating process of saying no when a boundary is being crossed at an event, whether it is an unwanted advance or some other matter. We then put this approach into practice through role play.
Xiayoi
Bootblacking and Leather Care 101
Blaze Room
Saturday February 20, 2021 at 11:00am Pacific
This class concerns the very basics of leather care. What products to use on which leathers and why. Depending on class size, we will do a bootblack kit tour and try hands on leather care. There will also be discussion about the differences between a bootblack, a leather care specialist and a shoe shine.
Coco
Ageplay Elementary
Blaze Room
Saturday February 20, 2021 at 1:00pm Pacific
Ageplay in and of itself tends to be such a varied, personal experience that there are numerous ways for it to be expressed. Because there are as many differences as there are people, it can be complicated and confusing trying to figure it all out alone. With Ageplay Elementary, we will break the broad world of Ageplay into basic building blocks to use as a foundation for future fun. We will consider developmental theories and utilize unique experiences to help provide littles, Bigs and everyone in between with a roadmap for discovery. For those looking to find who they are, how they are, and things you can do or even if you’re just curious about ageplay in general, this class is for you.
Devyn Stone & Property 840
Pronouns and Acronyms and Concepts! Oh My!
Blaze Room
Saturday February 20, 2021 at 3:00pm Pacific
In this class we will discuss some common misconceptions, terms, and concepts about gender. We will also introduce proper social interactions, negotiations, and give you some tools to be a better ally! Fear not, there will be plenty of time for questions! Audience participation is highly encouraged! We intend this presentation to be inclusive and affirming, though some may experience discomfort. Content/Trigger Warning: transgender topics, dysphoria, misgendering, guessing gender, and genital mentions.
Velvet Storm
I’m Not an Angry Black Woman…I have Mental Issues
Blaze Room
Sunday February 21, 2021 at 7:00am Pacific
Patient perspective on being called an angry black woman, reasons, diagnoses and prognosis.
Beau Korvin Black
Calming Frenetic Energy: Creating Calm Amidst Chaos
Blaze Room
Sunday February 21, 2021 at 9:00am Pacific
Energy is a magical phenomenon. We often intertwine energy throughout our scenes. It can enhance, and intensify the experience of a scene, an event, and especially during steamy sexual encounters.
Energy can also be draining, overwhelming, even debilitating if there is too much or if it is and negative or we don’t have the skills to protect ourselves.
Everything in this world is made up of energy. This class will show you how to begin sensing and exploring your own energetic field. You’ll also discover ways to protect your energy, by learning multiple ways to ground and center yourself. These techniques and tips may also help lessen the severity of event drop or drop from a scene.
Ferris Oxide
Don’t Tell Me What I Can’t Do: Dark Disability Play
Blaze Room
Sunday February 21, 2021 at 11:00am Pacific
People often look at disabled individuals and imagine a wide range of limitations. We are often taught to avoid, accommodate, or completely ignore a recognition of disability. This class will teach you to look at disability impairments as an opportunity. If you have a partner that is comfortable exploring their disability, there are endless possibilities for empowering sadomasochistic fun.
Q Wilson
Flirting
Blaze Room
Sunday February 21, 2021 at 1:00pm Pacific
How do you approach people you’re interested in? Flirting is like social lube and Q knows how to break it down for you with tips and confidence for flirting with your current and potential partners.
The current culture shift and pleasure revolution is the perfect opportunity for all of us to really put into practice the things we’ve been learning around consent. Come see how consent can make flirting easier and sexy!"